7 Rules of Life - 4. NOW is the moment of power

7 Rules of Life - 4. NOW is the moment of power


Where have you just been? And what is about to happen next? And, mind bending time again, are either of the answers you just gave to those questions real?

The answer is no, by the way.

The past is now just a memory.  A moment in time that only you experienced.  There may have been other people with you but none of them will have experienced that moment, or that moment, or that moment, or (this could go on for a long time so I'm going to stop)...in the way you just did.  It was a truly unique moment of time, experienced in a way no one ever has before and no one ever will again.

The future is a fantasy.  A guess on your best knowledge of what you can see, hear, feel and know about yourself.  But it isn't real.  If you really wanted to, you could run out of your house naked and run around the street proclaiming your love for Doctor Who.  You probably won't but it is an option ( if you do, grab a video and post it. That sounds funny!).  And that's the thing about the future, it isn't defined until you choose what to do next.  And when do you choose..?

Now.  Now is when you choose.

Every second has a myriad choices available.  You can choose left or right, good or bad, now or later, him or her, yes or no, fight or flight, stick or twist.

Now.  Now is when you choose.

So what do you choose to do?  Your life depends on your answer....

7 Rules of Life - 3. Energy goes where attention goes

7 Rules of Life - 3. Energy goes where attention goes

How are you tonight?  Good?  Or not?

The answer to that question will tell you where your internal focus is pointing.  

If it points towards being back at work tomorrow, your packed inbox and the multitude of phone calls you have to make then, guess what, you'll get to feel stressed and possibly even anxious.

If it points towards these precious moments with family, friends or just you being you then you'll get to feel good, loved perhaps, possible even content and happy.

The only difference is focus.

Too many people spend hours, days, weeks, years, even lifetimes focusing all our attention on what we don't want.  It's ruddy bonkers!! Stop it!!  Why would you waste your energy and thought on what you don't want?  Have you not realised that it isn't free?  It costs you, every time you do it.  It costs you time, energy and saps you.  Do you sleep properly? If not, what is the thought(s) that keep you awake?  Bet you it's lots of thoughts about what you don't want.

I'm into energy investment.

When you focus on what you want, when you focus on the people that love you, the things you have achieved, the things you will achieve, the dreams you have and the joy of a future that you are in control of not only does it not cost you anything but you also get interest on every ounce of energy you invest.  It just keeps on coming.  

You give power to your emotions by directing thought towards them.  Which ones are you empowering?

Aloha

7 Rules of Life - 2. There are no limits

7 Rules of Life - 2. There are no limits

When I do my training courses (BreakThrough Weekend in Glasgow September 15 & 16th, thanks for asking!!) I often say a line I do everything I can to live by...

THERE ARE NO RULES

It's the unconscious rules we set ourselves that define our limits, when we discard our rules - none of which are real - that we lose our personal limitations.

Think about it, how many times do you say 'I should...' or 'I need to...' or even 'I can't...' or 'I shouldn't...'?  These little gems give away our rules and limits on our lives.  

You need to realise that the only person that has ever set limits on how you live your life is you.  No one else.  

What the hell do you do that for?!!  

Realise that this is your one shot.  I'm not saying you should be out there bungee jumping from bridges and inventing submarines, I'm just saying that in your life just now you know that you are not doing things you wish you were.  Maybe now is the time to just go do it?

Why wouldn't you?

Aloha

7 Rules of Life - 1. The World is what you think it is

7 Rules of Life - 1. The World is what you think it is

Every minute of every day we filter the world through everything we have ever learned and experienced.  Every single second you have been alive has contributed to the way you experience your life today.

For example, if you grew up in a world of red, blue would seem amazing while orange may appear not quite right.  I know it's a crazy example but I hope it makes sense!  

At no point in your life will you ever interact with the 'real' world.  Everything, and I mean EVERYTHING, you experience is filtered by you.  Here's a mind blower, you are that unique that not one person ever in history has experienced this moment before and no one will ever experience it ever again.  This moment, right now is unique.  What have you done with it?!

Your expectations of life, the world and everything are defined by your internal experience.  If you think work is going to be hell, it probably will be. If you think your boss is an ass, it doesn't matter what they do you will see them as an ass. If you believe you are not good enough you will find your evidence to support that and you'll get to be right, congratulations!

Your thoughts are powerful.  How would your world change if you believed you are capable of anything?  How would you change you if you trusted that the opportunity to live your dream will present itself? 

The world is exactly what you think it is because your thoughts are your world.  The second you realise that is the second you take power over your life.

Aloha

This late? On a school night?

Late Night Musing; the Hawaiians had a phrase that went a bit like this - A'ole pau ka 'ike i ka halau ho'okahi

It's a fabulous phrase, isn't it? :)

OK, of course I'm going to tell you what it means; roughly translated it means 'think not that all knowledge comes from one school'

It's easy to become transfixed, captured by a thought or a method but it's very important to understand that no matter how much you know, you can never know everything.

You are only an expert in what you know now and to believe that what you know now is the only way or the truth is a fallacy.

We learn so much when we step outside what we think we know and try something new or adventurous.  When was the last time you did that?

Hypnotic Dickens

You know I do hypnosis right?  Well, you do now!  I do loads of other things aside from that but I'm fascinated and enthralled by the unconscious and its capability for producing change.

Anyway, I invented this cool Dickens-esque hypnotic induction the other day and I thought I'd share the concept with you tonight so that tonight...as you dream...or perhaps before...you can travel to somewhere inside to find something.  I dunno what. Just something...

So, as you go to sleep...whether that be now or later, imagine you get to meet 3 'people' inside your own head.  For the purposes of this exercise, you have 90 seconds with each of them -

1 - a you from the past.  The one that hurts the most.  What is the thing you say to them now, the thing they need to hear most, that heals them completely? "Everything is going to be OK.", "I love you", "I believe in you" or something else.  90 seconds...

2 - a you that lives perpetually 5 seconds ahead of you, choosing the best path for you.  What is the thing you say to help them always know what path to choose to best help you achieve everything you want? How do you help them direct you toward your life's true purpose? 90 seconds...


3 - The deepest you - the true you of right here, right now.  Your heart, your soul, the you that you always wanted to be. What is it that you want to HEAR from them?  What is it that they could say to you that would unlock you from your faces and allow you to be truly you?  What's the thing you've forgotten about yourself? 90 seconds...

It's an interesting wee thought exercise, give it a shot and let me know how you get on.  You know where I am if you want to try the full 45 minute version!!!!

Something different for Monday night :)

Congratulations, you've been successful...or have you?

What is success? I mean, I know what we're told success is but that isn't actually what success is.

I think sometimes we're all hypnotised to believe that if we don't have the big house, the fancy car, the right label on our clothes, the right body or even the right kids that we're not successful. There are a lot of people out there striving and pushing and stressing to achieve a dream that they will realise, when they get there, was actually someone else's dream, not theirs. 

Success is subjective, it's a personal thing. You might even be successful now if you just paid attention to what you have rather than what you think you want to have!

For me, walking around the shops today laughing with my oldest daughter, taking my family out for dinner last night to celebrate some recent successes from all of us, looking forward to another 2 years of my wife being a student and achieving her dreams and many other things are my gauges of success before anything else comes close.

Money is nice but sharing in love and respect of all those around you is success. After all, driving your nice car into your nice house all alone would be, let's face it, pretty dull.

Love and respect :)